so, you’re a porn star?!

I know, right! I mean, isn’t this YOUR everyday conversation?

I was recently chatting to Joi and Jayne (why yes, we do all have names starting with J) on twitter, in the secret twitter land of DMs(which are like private emails, for the less-than-one-of-you who may not be ‘twitterati’ yourselves…)

Somehow, I shared that my high school crush, the GORGEOUS Vincent(which may or may not be his real name….) had gone on to become a porn star after high school. Sigh. YES. A. PORN. STAR.

My BFF had found out at our ten year reunion, which was in South Africa, hence my non-attendance. She had also taken way too much delight in informing me also…

I admit, I was slightly devo’d. Which is ‘young speak’ for devastated. Because who can be bothered writing out the whole word? Anyone under twenty five it would seem. And some thirty-something females also….

So: devo’d. Because I missed out on the benefits of having a porn star boyfriend. Surely there are benefits? That don’t include diseases? I ‘loved’ him. As much as you can at fifteen.

And I never dreamed that he would become a PORN STAR. WHAT?! How could he mess with me so much?

I jest. A little. BUT, I definitely was surprised.

I think people often jump out of the box that we assign them to. Even if it’s a subconscious assignment… we box people all the time.  And sometimes we don’t want to let them out of their box. Because we want(and even NEED) them to be who and what we’ve decided they should be, so that they fit into our ordered little world. And when they jump out, it’s a shock to us. But not to them…

I’m trying to be less ‘boxy’ of the people in my world. I’m not expecting everyone I know to now become a porn star (although, hey, if that’s your ‘thing’!)

We also tend to limit and box ourselves. Usually with even stricter parameters than those we put on others. I’m hoping we can jump out of our own boxes and surprise ourselves every once in a while.

Maybe even become a porn star! Go on, shock your mum!

Huzzah!

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