Here’s THE THING:
Lie: If people really knew you, they wouldn’t love you.
Truth: If people really knew you, they could really love you.
I love that. The truth bit. I find it’s too hard to live the lie. Even though it’s often the way we humans usually steer. Always ducking and weaving and pretending we’re more than we think we should admit that we are, to reduce the risk of rejection. It’s too tiring. And at the end of the day, when all is said and done and we lay our heads on the pillow, we know when we’ve not been true to ourselves.
How much more awesome to live true. To live free. To live knowing that whether we’re rejected by a particular person or not, we’ve been integrous to who we are, regardless.
:: and the laying of the head on the pillow is that much sweeter and more restful ::
I was sad about something the other day, and a beautiful friend sent an SMS that said ‘just sit with your sad… Let it teach you something’. There was no judgement. No ‘OMG SHE’S SAD???” There was love, embrace, tons of helpful advice, support, friendship, connection, togetherness, sharing….
It doesn’t have to mean the bottom is falling out of my world if I have a bad day. It doesn’t have to mean my family and friends will love me any less if I’m honest with my feelings instead of shoving them aside(only to face them even more harshly under the cover of darkness).
It doesn’t have to mean any of the lie… if I choose the truth instead.
It means I’m frail, and human, and tender, and vulnerable, and learning, and hopefully growing… and hopefully;
Here’s to living free xx